Co-Counseling – Workplace Benefits

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“Benefits of Co-Counseling in the Workplace”
from the book What’s On Top
by Sue Gray & Steve Roche**

Success at work has a lot to do with:
• How we relate to the people around us
• How we appear to them.

The skills and tools learned in co-counseling are hugely beneficial in all types of relationships.

At work they will help you to develop emotional intelligence and greatly increase your understanding of yourself, your colleagues, managers, and people who report to you.
• Increased emotional intelligence is a recognized way to be more successful at work.
• Greater self-assurance and effectiveness improves perceived value in many ways.

Skills learned in co-counseling training that are relevant to work include how to:
• Give clear and effective feedback.
• Be more resourceful when imparting bad news.
• Get on at work even when feeling upset; avoid getting stuck in feelings.
• Use fun and lightness at work to increase effectiveness.
• Relate openly and honestly to people.
• Increase people’s willingness to work together and be more productive.
• Be more assertive and self responsible.
• Listen and question more effectively.
• Build rapport and get along with colleagues better.
• Improve skill at “managing upwards.”
• Handle conflict well and put useful boundaries in place.
• Appreciate people and trust them to use their own resources.

“Emotional intelligence is not a luxury you can dispense with in tough times. It’s a basic tool that, deployed with finesse, is the key to professional success.”
– Harvard Business School Review

** Sue Gray and Steve Roche are experienced co-counseling teachers.
They live in the United Kingdom.

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“Co-Counseling Helps Me”

“Co-Counseling Helps Me” is the second in a series of videos produced by CCI-USA.
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“Dealing with Bruno”

A story about two little boys and one barking dog.
by Jane Heald.

dog 3Two little boys, Billy and Bobby, were neighbors.
One Saturday a new family moved into a vacant house on their street.
The new family had a large dog, Bruno, whom they chained out in their yard.
The next day, when the boys and their mothers were walking past, Bruno lunged at them, barking.

The chain held, but the children were startled and began to cry and tremble–terrified.
To tell the truth, their mothers were frightened, too.

Billy’s mother took his hand and kept on walking, rather faster than before, dragging Billy along. “He didn’t hurt you. See? He’s chained up. Be a big boy and stop crying. Come on, we’re going to be late to church.”

Bobby’s mother took his hand too, and walked on until she found a step she could sit down on. Then she took Bobby on her lap and held him while he cried and shook. “That was scary, wasn’t it?” she said, “but we’re okay now.”
After several minutes of sobbing and shaking, Bobby cautiously opened his eyes and peeked at the dog. Finally, calmly, he said, “Let’s go home on the other side of the street.”

When human beings are given caring, aware attention, they are able to process experiences and discharge emotions. Then they can think clearly.

In the weeks following this incident, Bobby showed great respect for Bruno, but went on about his business.
On the contrary, Billy developed a fear of dogs that is still with him. He still avoids situations involving dogs, which limits his life.

In co-counseling it would be possible for Billy to “work on” his fear of dogs, doing the crying and shaking in sessions that he didn’t have a chance to do at the time.

It’s never too late to come to terms with Bruno.

Co-counseling is a structured way of taking turns giving each other caring, aware attention so that we can discharge old and new hurts. Then we can think clearly and have real choices about how to respond to the situations in our present lives.

                                                                                             Jane is a long-time co-counselor
                                                                                                               She lives in Tennessee

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“Safe Places”

Anne Buchalski describes Safe Places as “…places where we feel whole, sound, protected and alive.”   Thank you, Anne for detailing how Co-Counseling can create such a place.


“Safe Places”

Excerpts from an article* by Anne Buchalski, LMT, CST, Board Certified

Safe Places are those places, both external and internal, where we feel secure, comfortable and at peace. They are the places where we feel whole, sound, protected and alive.

They are locations where we know we won’t be hurt or attacked or judged.

Sometimes they are groups or individuals who we know will accept us for who we are, encourage us to connect with the best of ourselves and simply love or like us just the way we are right now even with our imperfections.

There are several external places where I have gone myself or referred clients or friends to find acceptance in a community or group environment.

The first group is Co-Counseling International or CCI.

I have found an amazing community of supportive and loving people in CCI who have helped me uncover and know my innate goodness and help me open my heart to share my gifts with the world.

Co-Counseling is a peer process involving two people who share time in a session to heal past and present hurts, to celebrate growth and make intentional change. For half the session one person is in the “counselor” role and the other is in the “client” role. For the second half of the session the roles switch. The “client” determines the type of support she or he wants from the “counselor”. A contract for that support is agreed upon by both co-counselors and always includes an agreement to hold the content of the session in strict confidence.

Co-Counseling is founded on the principle that we each have within us our own answers.

When we give ourselves time to explore in the presence of aware and caring support from the “counselor” we are able to find those answers, heal hurts and move forward. Co-counseling helps us to identify and safely discharge or let go of distress feelings, teaches us to validate and affirm our special qualities and gifts and gives us the skills and practice we need to take charge of our lives.

Co-Counseling is about celebrating who we are!

*The full article, “Safe Places”, originally appeared in the Fall 2015 issue of “The Door Opener”

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The Power of “Sessions”


Co-Counseling is done by two people who divide time equally in “sessions.”

Thanks Tom for your perspective on the power of “sessions.”

The Power of “Sessions”   by Tom Alvord

The things that make a “session” so powerful for me are:

  • the energy I get from another’s aware, caring attention
  • the respect for the fact that we have our own answers inside of us
  • being in the presence of an aware, caring, nonjudgmental, non-evaluating witness
  • the trust that develops
  • the positive effects on my relationship with myself and with others
  • it’s the first time in my life I’ve consistently had opportunities to be this open about what’s really going on in my life
  • introspection is much more beneficial when done in conjunction with co-counseling
  • “sessions” help me question negative thinking
  • “sessions” help me see myself
  • “sessions” help me to be “in touch” with myself
  • these benefits help me to be less critical, less blaming and more accepting of others

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